Friday, July 16, 2010

There's No More Joe, Don't You Know

I am sorry to report that it looks like there will be no further adventures with Joe for the time being. It really is rather disappointing as he was EXACTLY what we have been searching for...clean cut( I mean military clean cut which is so attractive to me), terribly good looking, agressive and self assured in his dominance of me, respectful, single, lives alone and able to host our play as Jay and I would obviously be rarely able to do so and are in no position to run up hotel bills to get our kicks

He seemed intensely interested in further adventures the week after our incredibly hot encounter. We exchanged several hot emails and texts, and discussed the possiblity of him coming over for dinner and play this weekend as both children would be gone. Then he went out of town the 4th of July weekend, and seemed lukewarm at best once he returned. Then he simply stopped communicating altogether.

I spent a fair amount of time trying to figure out what the hell had happened, wondering if I had done or said something to put him off...certain that the problem must be on my end somewhere.

In the end, the reason was exactly what Jay had tried to tell me it was. He finally texted Jay this week after two weeks of silence to explain that he had been in the process of getting back together with an ex, and would be unable to play anymore.

In many ways I felt very much relieved to know the problem did not lie with me at all. It also seems to say to me that my assessment of Joe as a basically decent guy was correct. Granted, keeping me on hold until he figured out what was going to develop with the ex, wasn't so nice, but not playing with me while also beginning anew with an ex says something about him as well.

So it seems I must begin my search anew. Who knows what I may have up my sleeve...

8 comments:

淑娟淑娟淑娟 said...

什麼樣的學習計畫並不重要,重要的是你是什麼樣的人。............................................................

longingsend said...

Men suck. He should have told you straight up. What would have been so bad about him telling you the truth right away so you didn't have to sit and wonder for 2 weeks? unfortunately, it's how people operate. He didn't want to tell you until he knew for sure things might work with the ex, because if he told you anything prior, he could risk losing his interactions with you, which is silly since you aren't looking for a long term relationship.

*sigh*

Good luck on your next search.

xo mina

Mimi said...

Mina...yes I am being reminded through this whole experiment that men often can't be trusted particuarly when it come to matter of sex...surprise, surprise, right?

Yes, it would have been nice if Joe had not strung me along until he knew what was going to develop with the ex, but as you said that is often just human nature. Strangely, I can't muster much anger towards him, maybe b/c he was so damn good looking, maybe b/c our interaction was so hot, or maybe b/c I just feel relieved that the problem did not lie with me.

I am learning through all of this to be patient as I search for the "right" 2nd.

Kerri said...

I cant stop reading you blog since I stubled across it. LOVE IT!!!

Mimi said...

Kerri...glad you like the dark corners of my otherwise boring, middle class mind :-)

bigd44 said...

Mimi,

See what I told you us guys! It seems Joe was stringing you and Jay along in case it didn't work out with his ex. Good luck in your search for a second!

雅莊王edgd春2蕙婷余惠其 said...

God never shuts one door but he opens another...................................................

Kerri said...

Thats right, and I wouldnt mind having my door opened! ;)