I am sorry to report that it looks like there will be no further adventures with Joe for the time being. It really is rather disappointing as he was EXACTLY what we have been searching for...clean cut( I mean military clean cut which is so attractive to me), terribly good looking, agressive and self assured in his dominance of me, respectful, single, lives alone and able to host our play as Jay and I would obviously be rarely able to do so and are in no position to run up hotel bills to get our kicks
He seemed intensely interested in further adventures the week after our incredibly hot encounter. We exchanged several hot emails and texts, and discussed the possiblity of him coming over for dinner and play this weekend as both children would be gone. Then he went out of town the 4th of July weekend, and seemed lukewarm at best once he returned. Then he simply stopped communicating altogether.
I spent a fair amount of time trying to figure out what the hell had happened, wondering if I had done or said something to put him off...certain that the problem must be on my end somewhere.
In the end, the reason was exactly what Jay had tried to tell me it was. He finally texted Jay this week after two weeks of silence to explain that he had been in the process of getting back together with an ex, and would be unable to play anymore.
In many ways I felt very much relieved to know the problem did not lie with me at all. It also seems to say to me that my assessment of Joe as a basically decent guy was correct. Granted, keeping me on hold until he figured out what was going to develop with the ex, wasn't so nice, but not playing with me while also beginning anew with an ex says something about him as well.
So it seems I must begin my search anew. Who knows what I may have up my sleeve...